My 2018 Fucket List

Things I’m Not Repeating

It’s the end of 2018! This year has been full of highs and lows. I’d say this year has been chock full of lessons or at least I’ve become more aware of them. Maybe it’s aging maybe it’s creating a habit of awareness, maybe it’s both. Either way these lessons have served me and I’m sure you’ve had your share of 2018 lessons. With that being said, I keep seeing lots of #goals for 2019 and millions of memes about how we’re all letting go of things that no longer serve us. This is all great and more power to all of you. I wanted to take mine to the next level. You see one thing is saying it but when I write it down then I’m held accountable; I’m making it a reality for myself. I came across Steph Gaudreau’s post sharing her Fucket List.

I thought it was brilliant and drew inspiration to create my own!

Undoubtedly there’s a process to experience relapses with all things whether it’s fitness, lifestyle, eating habits, etc. So I’m not striving for perfection with my fucket list and if you are inspired to create your own then I encourage it!

Here we go, My Fucket List: Things I’m Not Repeating

  1. Pouring too much energy into social media. I love the community that’s come together on my social media and get to connect with so many of you, but remember this, things aren’t always what they seem. If we’re pouring all of our energy into one aspect of our lives that means that other areas may be suffering as a result. That’s the way life usually works. I realized this past year I’ve spent way too much time and energy on social media. Approximately 9 hours a week = 821 hours in 2018! I was able to figure this out through the iPhone screen time feature. Seeing this struck me to the core because I could’ve written a book or who knows what else. Coming to this realization has not been easy to swallow but I’ve accepted it and am proactively doing something about it. I’m striving for 30 mins to an hour a day not necessarily every day. I know I know the infamous ALGORITHM. Let’s not get started with that. This is a fucket list remember.

  2. Not cultivating boredom. This ties in with the first point. We live in a modern world whose goal is to overstimulate and distract us. How many times have you whipped out your phone while standing in a line? Or pulled it out while having a conversation with a friend, partner or family member? GUILTY. Have you ever noticed that your best ideas come to you when you’re taking a shower or practicing a skincare ritual/routine? Well that’s because we’re allowing our brains to experience boredom. Boredom is needed for innovation and we give our imagination time to run free. It’s that childlike quality we all once had. My best ideas come to me when I take time away from social media and technology. I look forward to those moments now because I can’t wait for the next potential great idea. Unplugging is good for the brain and wellness.

  3. Digging myself deeper into debt. This is a hard one I faced. In fact, one day I woke up and thought what is my debt total? I literally sat down for a total of 4+ hours pulling up my credit report and credit score, printed all of my credit card accounts, bank statements, school loans and did some reverse budgeting. I took pen to paper, OLD SCHOOL. When I finally saw what I was spending my money (energy) on, that was another hard pill to swallow. Naturally I cried. I realized that I did not see healthy money relationships growing up but I kept using that reason to justify my patterns now. Enough is enough. I’m a grown up and I got myself here. In fact, I have a very abusive pattern with money and that stems from fear. So I thank the debt for allowing some great things to come into my life but will no longer fall into victimhood with my finances. Which is why starting January 8th, 2019 through December 31, 2019 I will be implementing a SPENDING FAST (The Spender’s Guide to Debt Free Living is where I learned from). That means I will no longer go out to eat (I can make homemade pizza if I really want it and friends can come over for some homemade meals, get manis/pedis, buy notebooks and journals, buy books (I have scribd, the public library, and audible for that), buy new clothes (make do and mend what I have), buy new makeup (unless I run out of concealer or mascara there’s no need for me to buy more). These financial burdens have kept me in a job I don’t enjoy, affects my stress levels which in turn affects health, hormones and fertility. I’m pulling myself out of the game where everyone is trying to one up each other for this perfectly curated social media life while in reality most of us are burying ourselves in debt. Every penny I make from affiliate links, partnerships, working with clients will go into paying off debt and I thank you with all my heart for using those affiliates. NO MAS, your girl is crawling out because I’m tired of filling other entities wallets while mine withers away. This is my start to becoming autonomous in my life.

  4. Not travel. Sadly, it’s been years since I’ve been to El Salvador and Guatemala. There’s a number of reasons: debts, politics, several other adult responsibilities. My soul craves to reconnect with my roots. In fact, while I was out there those were some of the moments I felt most alive. I need that in my life, I think we all do.

  5. Not prioritizing sleep. This entire year I found myself in the habit of sleeping late because FOMO. For what I have absolutely no idea. It’s really dumb. If you want your productivity and health to suffer then not prioritizing sleep will get you there in no time.

  6. Not prioritizing movement. This point and the previous one go hand in hand. Due to the fact that I wasn’t giving myself enough sleep I was also not moving as much. I’m not talking about going to the gym as punishment and torture for eating something I “shouldn’t” have. I’m talking about just moving whether that be walking every day or doing stretches or hiking. Movement keeps our joints lubricated, gets our digestion going, gets blood circulating, helps our organs do their job more effectively.

  7. Be afraid to be myself. Life is too short and I have a purpose on this earth so be ready for it.

So there you have it! I wish you all a happy new year with lots of love, peace and grounding in yourselves.

Love and light,